Tag: life

  • Do You Stand Out in a Crowd?

    Do You Stand Out in a Crowd?

    What part of my routine would I always skip if I can? I would say it’s my face. Yeah, I can tell by your reaction that you weren’t expecting an answer like that when you asked for this interview. But, like I said over the phone, I’m not like other people that you know.

    So while you’re checking your interview notes to see what detail you missed about me, let me explain.

    Every day, I go to work, I take the transit like hundreds of other people in this city. I check my phone for the latest news during my ride and then I grab my coffee on the way to the office. I enter data and write reports all day. I say hello to my coworkers on the way to my desk, and goodbye on my way home. Yeah, it sounds boring, but I’m as pleasant and polite as can be.

    So what’s this got to do with my face?

    Well, everything. No one really knows anyone. No one really knows me.

    My coworkers and my boss call me reliable and hardworking. But they couldn’t tell you a darn thing about my favorite hobby or favorite food. They think it’s pizza and beer, but that’s because they all have pizza and beer after work when we gather at the pub.

    My parents say I’m a good son. I visit them on the weekends. I play with their dog and their cat so they think I like animals. They like going to Europe in the summer and I’m always intrigued by their adventures so they think my dream is to visit Europe.

    The reality is, I don’t know what I want. I try so hard to be a people pleaser, that over time, I’ve lost myself. Every day, I put on my face before I walk out that door. That face is the face of the person everyone thinks is me, you know?

    But who am I? If I didn’t put on my face, who would they see? 

    For once, I wish I had the courage to be late for work because I slept in, so yeah, fire me. Wouldn’t that feel good! I wish I could board the train and start belting out a song and hope everyone joins my impromptu concert. For once, I wish I could say to my parents, I want to go hiking in the mountains, even though I could get lost, and it’s a little dangerous. But I’m not brave enough.

    I guess I’m too scared to see the faces of the people around me go from acceptance to shock. So I guess the answer to your question, “What part of your routine do you always try to skip if you can?” would be, “not putting on my face.” I always try to go out as the real me, to skip that step of putting on my fake face, but I always run back. No one will ever see who I really am. I’d rather just be another face in the crowd.

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    Daily writing prompt
    What part of your routine do you always try to skip if you can?

  • I’m Still Here

    I’m Still Here

    These days, we’re all wondering if we’ll be replaced by technology. Some organizations are using AI to write, instead of hiring writers. Does this mean writers will be out of jobs in the future?
    Yet, the vacuum still hasn’t replaced the broom. I own both a vacuum and a broom. I also have a computer and a smartphone, and I still read paper books.

    For sure, technology has replaced what used to be a regular part of people’s lives in the past. The average person will travel by car or public transit instead of by horse to get where they want to go. The average person will use electric lighting instead of candles to brighten their room at night.

    However, some things are still here to stay, co-existing in a modern world. What do you think?

  • Creating an Inclusive Culture – Remote Work

    Creating an Inclusive Culture – Remote Work

    Technology has made it possible for a situation that didn’t exist a couple of decades ago: working with strangers. In a new culture of remote work, collaborating with coworkers in another city or country has become more commonplace. This situation can be comfortable for some people, and awkward for others.

    This possible disconnect between coworkers is an issue that remote companies must address. How do these companies create an inclusive culture for their remote teams? 

    When you work from home, you may never meet your coworkers face-to-face for a casual conversation at the water cooler. You may have staggered interaction times because you’re logging into work as coworkers are having lunch or getting ready for dinner. 

    Interactions are formal: meetings are done virtually, with set start and end times, and people stick to the agenda to respect schedules. Meetings can also seem less formal because you get a peek into your coworker’s home, and you’re not meeting in the boardroom. 

    However, it’s harder to relate to someone you know little about, apart from their name, job title, and what their home office looks like.

    The leadership team has an important role in creating an inclusive work culture for their remote teams, starting with how they communicate and meet.

    1 In-person team events

    Virtual meetings are an effective way to collaborate quickly without wasting time on travel, but it isn’t easy to get to know people by meeting on a computer screen.

    Technology cannot replace in-person events. If a group of coworkers lives within driving distance, it’s worth it to find a day when most people can meet for lunch and a chat. Occasions such as greeting a new team member, saying goodbye to someone moving away, or celebrating a holiday are the perfect reasons to socialize and get to know your team members in a non-work-related context.

    If possible, arrange for the whole company to meet at a central location. This annual meeting can be a day for everyone to meet in person and bond over activities that are completely unrelated to work.

    2 Developing an inclusive culture from the top down

    An inclusive culture for a remote company starts at the management level. New hires and team members follow the example that their direct report or supervisor sets.

    The tone used in emails, group chats, and direct messages is a part of the company culture. Do messages sound supportive and friendly? Or do people stick to the point? (The occasional curt message doesn’t count – eventually, you’ll catch someone in a hurry if you message them often enough.)

    Do group chats and meetings include sharing news and photos about what company members have been up to? A photo of a company lunch helps to connect names to faces and gives a sense of what other teams or departments are doing. 

    Group chats and meetings are also opportunities to share what individuals have accomplished. For example, what projects were completed this past quarter? What did Jane contribute to the company lately to improve operations? What presentation did Sean do last month that won an award?

    These are just some ways the company can create an inclusive culture that connects names, accomplishments, and faces. People become more than employees that you know by name.

    3 Starting team meetings with a little socializing

    Team meetings are usually scheduled for a half hour to an hour. It’s typical to have a lot to cover in that short period of time. However, the team can spare a few minutes for some socializing. That casual start to the meeting can do a lot to build relationships.

    The person acting as meeting moderator can start with a question such as, “How is everyone doing?” or ask about the weather. When your team lives in different cities, comparing the weather can be interesting. If the weather seems dull, other neutral topics are also worthwhile, such as everyone’s upcoming weekend or holiday plans (although this topic tends to create long discussions that take the meeting off topic).

    These short one to two-line conversations are a way to break the ice and get to know team members more personally. You find out that a teammate’s work buddy is a dog (who may pop by during the virtual meeting). Or you may find out someone likes beach weather as much as you do.

    These bits of trivia come in handy when you need to message someone for the first time with a work request. You can add a personal note by adding, “Hope you have a good rest this long weekend at your summer cabin and let me know when the report is finished!”

    4 One-on-one chats with remote team members

    One-on-one chats with team members are a great way to get to know other people who work at your company. When you can speak one-on-one at a virtual meeting or on a phone call, you have the chance to get to know each other on a personal level. 

    For example, you can find out what brought that person to the company or what their specific role is (especially if you don’t work directly with that coworker). Depending on how social the other person is, you might share details about your personal life. 

    Team members can message each other with work requests and add the latest picture of their dog or cat if they discover that their coworker is also fond of animals or has a pet. In some cases, these chats evolve into sharing anecdotes about hobbies or jokes interspersed with work-related chatter.

    When you really connect with your coworkers, you may also open up personally, knowing your coworker will offer you support. For example, offering to pick up a work task for you because you’re sick, or sending you a joke to help you feel better because you’re struggling with something in your personal life.

    These personal connections can also happen with your supervisor or mentor. People who are in management or supervisory positions should take the time to get to know their team members by booking time for one-on-one meetings. 

    During that time, they can find out more about why someone is working for the company (they might not have been involved in the hiring process), what that person’s career goals are, and how that person likes to work (such as they like to be included in teamwork or they prefer to work independently). 

    This is also the perfect time to find out if the team member is struggling with something at work or at home but is reluctant to share. Discussing a solution can help to deal with mental health issues or possible future challenges.

    These types of connections are entirely possible with remote teams.

    5 Setting a tone of sensitivity

    People who work with remote teams can find it challenging to connect with their coworkers. You don’t have the chance to run into them before or after work for a quick conversation, for example. This lack of opportunity to connect results in coworkers that are faceless entities that you email with work requests.

    However, if company culture includes the occasional in-person event, promotes having a snippet of social time at the start of a meeting, or encourages people to get to know each other on a more personal level, people will feel more included.

    Some may resent social opportunities and consider this inclusive culture to be a waste of time. Introverts want to be left alone to work. A direct, to-the-point person will avoid wasting time with unrelated chatter. 

    The downside of this type of disconnect is people working in silos, and when they need help (and this will happen), their coworkers aren’t as quick to give a helping hand. This isolation can also open the door to misunderstandings and resentment.

    An inclusive culture of respect and support for others will create a more connected workplace. There are a few ways to create this sensitivity. 

    For instance, if you discover that your coworker has social anxiety, the team can be more encouraging. They can ask for that person’s opinion, knowing that person isn’t likely to share. They can also respond in a non-judgemental way and show appreciation when their coworker does share an opinion or idea.

    Key Takeaways

    Taking the time and initiative to get to know your coworkers creates a positive environment for your remote team. Making these connections is important when you don’t see everyone day-to-day. It’s too easy to see coworkers as just names when you work from home. But when you discover just a little about a coworker’s personal life, such as a hobby, number of kids, or favorite food, you start to see them as people.

    You’ll want to support and help each other when these coworkers are humans that you care about. Creating an inclusive culture begins with taking the time to build relationships with your coworkers.

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  • Would You Love Once or Never Love at All?

    Would You Love Once or Never Love at All?

    My earliest memory of him is when he sat across from me in the cafeteria and asked me about the pictures I was drawing. He asked me questions and wanted to know all about me. And so, I thought, I was in love.

    I saw him in the hallway, where he would smile at me and his beautiful face would light up my day. He would call out my name and ask me how I was, and those were the most wonderful words.

    He was perfect. Everything he did amazed me. I saw him in the mall on the weekend and he wouldn’t stop talking with me. He bought me ice cream. We went for a walk. He asked if I had a boyfriend. 

    Then I saw him with another girl. “I thought you liked me,” I said.

    “We were just friends,” he said.

    So I sat through the next class wondering what I had done wrong. Was it something I had said? Something I had done?

    Months passed. He never talked to me again. But over time, he didn’t look so handsome. His voice wasn’t so beautiful. He stopped walking on air and he came down to earth.

    Ah, love is fleeting. A crush is just a crush.

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    Daily writing prompt
    Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

  • How to Create Adventure in Your Comfort Zone

    How to Create Adventure in Your Comfort Zone

    Each day, we start with the same number of hours, minutes, and seconds to spend how we choose. We have the power to make each day special or different. Some days stand out more than others, like attending a wedding, a birthday, or a graduation. Or they stand out for other reasons, like a funeral, job loss, or extreme illness. 

    Those days are atypical. But if it’s a workday, how can you turn a typical day into a memorable one? You can change the little things, like the screen saver on your computer, eat something different for lunch. You can change the greeting for your coworker from the usual, “Hi, how are you?” to “Hello, how will you make today special?” Your coworker will likely stop and stare.

    It’s easy to say that we had a typical day because we got up at the usual time, did our usual morning routine, went to work, and then had the usual commute back home before having a bland dinner. Five days a week can pass like that and it’s okay to enjoy the comfort of a drama-free routine.

    But when you think about it, five days a week, fifty somewhat weeks in a year (depending on how many weeks you work) is a huge chunk of your life that’s typical or routine. You don’t have to live it that way. 

    I challenge you to try something different to change your daily routine and keep it fresh. Your mind will notice the details when you slightly change your route to work, or check out a new place for lunch. 

    You’re also setting new goals for yourself. You might learn something new if you pause to talk with someone you’ve never spoken to before—a neighbor, a coworker, or the cashier at the coffee shop. 

    Tomorrow, ask yourself, “Was today typical?” or did you change things up just a little bit?

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    Daily writing prompt
    Was today typical?