How to Have It All and Attain Your Dream

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Is it possible to have it all? We all have goals and dreams; nothing is more fulfilling than seeing our goals achieved. On the other hand, nothing is more disappointing than working hard and watching success slip away as you fail.

Over time, I’ve put together tips on how to have it all. The last tip is my favorite.

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What does “having it all” mean to you? Is it attainable?
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1 Set Realistic Goals

Having it all has different meanings for different people: being rich, working at their dream job, marrying their significant other, or living in their ideal house while married with a spouse and kids. No matter what the perfect life means to you, you want a match between what’s realistically attainable and what you aim to have.

If you want to be a billionaire but you don’t have the means to reach that income level, you won’t have everything you desire. Similarly, if you want a happy marriage, you will achieve it by working on your relationship and communicating with your spouse.

2 Evaluate Your Progress

Life has its surprises. Your goal may be to earn a medal for a sport, but an unexpected tragedy makes that goal unattainable. In that case, you may need to modify your goal or set a new one. It’s also possible that you thought you could achieve a goal, but as time passes and you gain more life experience, you realize that goal was not reasonable. For example, you may want to start a profitable business but not reach your sales goal. In that case, it’s time to make new milestones and readjust your plans.

3 Put Yourself First

It’s important to put yourself first. If you’re influenced by more successful people, what other people have, or the opinions of those who criticize you, it will be difficult to have it all. If you want to be the most fashionable by comparing yourself to fashion icons, you will always be trying to catch up to someone else. If you have a critical friend or parent, you’ll always be below standard and imperfect until you put yourself first.

4 Create Happiness

The greatest key to having it all is happiness with what you have. This is not the same as setting low standards. What it means is if you want certain things in life, but you haven’t gotten them yet, take a look around you and see what you currently have while you continue to work on your goals. Being happy with what you have is important for mental health and confidence. It’s a stepping stone as you continue to work on what you want in the future.

32 thoughts on “How to Have It All and Attain Your Dream”

  3. Brilliant advice Vanya. In life, to achieve your dream is not a walk in the park, it is hard as rock at times especially when you don’t see the rewards of your efforts.

    Also, I am new to this blog and already I am hooked by it, I love motivational words and excellently written blog posts✨💖

    Lastly, I can summarize this blog and say: “PUT YOURSELF FIRST, CREATE HAPPINESS AND SET REALISTIC GOALS” are subtopics that I enjoyed reading about.

    Keep up the great blogging✨🙏

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  10. I like #4 best too.

    I always wanted to be a writer, but I like writing fiction, and it’s really really really really really hard to get published. Instead of feeling like a failure, I’m publishing it on here. Every time somebody reads it it makes me feel great, (thank you Vanya!) and it’s inspired me to keep writing, which, I realized, is what’s really important to me.

    I had to let go of three ideas: the idea of getting paid for my work, the fear of being judged negatively by others, and the need for the validation of a publisher saying “you’re good enough for the big time.” Since I’ve jettisoned those ideas, I couldn’t be happier!

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    1. I hope you continue to write! Eventually, you’ll find the right audience! I had to let go of some goals, such as finishing a novel, because I don’t have the time for it. Once I took that goal off my list, I felt like a huge weight had been lifted!
      Looking forward to reading more of your stories!

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